What are the differences between a coach and a mentor?

Difference between a MENTOR (Guru) and a Teacher (not coach or trainer or instructor)

A mentor necessarily falls in love with his students, he relishes the changes that he he sees in his mentee everyday, overtime, every situation, He relishes chiselling his mentee in a manner best suited to his talent, A teacher teaches a subject, he helps develop in his pupil some concepts but necessarily not diluting his values. Its always value loaded. a coach simplifies a subject suited to a large number of students for commercial gains. He is not concerned about the developments in his pupil and the way he is shaping, and doesn’t give values at all. he has to be popular unlike a mentor who has to be respectable, a trainer can be anyone of old or young age who holds your hand to train one specific skill.

A teacher takes responsibility for your growth.

• A MENTOR (Guru) makes you responsible for your growth, he empowers to you to grow

A teacher is a guide.

• A MENTOR (Guru) is a reformer, with a rebellious streak.

A teacher asks the fish to live in water and how to live in water.

• A MENTOR (Guru) asks to swim in water like a fish (only dead fishes swim with water)

A teacher belongs to this world

• A MENTOR (Guru) belongs to this and all the worlds

A teacher gives you things you do not have and require.

• A MENTOR (Guru) takes away things you have and do not require.

A teacher answers your questions, removes your doubts

• A MENTOR (Guru) questions your answers, creates doubts, doubles it and then helps you to solve it.

A teacher helps you get out of the maze.

• A MENTOR (Guru) destroys the maze.

A teacher requires obedience and discipline from the pupil.

• A MENTOR (Guru) requires trust and humility from the pupil.

A teacher clothes you and prepares you for the outer journey.

• A MENTOR (Guru) strips you naked and prepares you for the inner journey.

A teacher is a guide on the path.

• A MENTOR (Guru) is a pointer to the way.

A teacher sends you on the road to success.

• A MENTOR (Guru) sends you on the road to freedom, a true nirvana.

A teacher looks at your talent

• A MENTOR (Guru) helps you to identify your own talent.

A teacher explains the world and its nature to you.

• A MENTOR (Guru) explains yourself and your nature to you.

A teacher teaches you to adjust to your immediate environment

• A MENTOR (Guru) guides to mould the immediate environment around you for the betterment of mankind.

A teacher makes you understand where to move about in the world.

• A MENTOR (Guru) shows you where you stand in relation to the world, and how to move about in the world

A teacher gives you knowledge and boosts your ego.

• A MENTOR (Guru) takes away your knowledge and punctures your ego.

A teacher instructs you.

• A MENTOR (Guru) constructs you.

A teacher sharpens your mind.

• A MENTOR (Guru) opens your mind.

A teacher shows you the way to prosperity.

• A (Guru) shows you the way to posterity.

A teacher reaches your mind.

• A MENTOR (Guru) touches your spirit.

A teacher gives you knowledge.

• A MENTOR (Guru) makes you wise.

A teacher gives you maturity.

• A MENTOR (Guru) returns you to innocence, he brings you back to curiousity

A teacher instructs you on how to solve problems.

• A MENTOR (Guru) shows you how to resolve issues.

A teacher is a systematic thinker.

• A MENTOR (Guru) is a lateral thinker.

A teacher will punish you with a stick.

• A MENTOR (Guru) will punish you with compassion.

A teacher is to pupil what a father is to son.

• A MENTOR (Guru) is to pupil what mother is to her child.

One can always find a teacher.

• But a MENTOR (Guru) has to find and accept you.

A teacher leads you by the hand.

• A MENTOR (Guru) leads you by example.

When a teacher finishes with you, you celebrate.

• When a MENTOR (Guru) finishes with you, life celebrates.

When the course is over you are thankful to the teacher.

• When the discourse is over you are grateful to the MENTOR (Guru)

How do you overcome fear and doubt?

 How do you overcome fear and doubt?

"it's weakness that breeds fear, and fear breeds mistrust" MAHATMA GANDHI

Human progress is either by individual excellence, or by by building social capital.

Individual human excellence is generally achieved by uncluttered mind, a mind unpolluted by unnecessary thoughts, productive thoughts, not by unprogressive or regressive thoughts. More the number of these type of thoughts, the more regressive is the thinking, and greater is space of mind is occupied by such thinkings. In such case the person is not able to make any investment of thinking, rather he or she keeps of taking guards to save himself/herself make them safe, secure. The greater the number of guards the more distanced the person makes from fellow people. Under such a circumstance, the other person takes a guard too. Thus it inhibits social capital, the person ultimately does all the work himself, his specialisation gets lost, his ability to utilise his talent also gets lost and becomes very very general And alone.

In in any pursuit of excellence, risks are involved, innovation is involved, association is involved, and a fresh thinking is involved. Moving ahead means some mistakes will occur, then the mistakes are to be managed, through a flexible approach....all this requires courage, stooping to learn, shedding ego but always maintaining self esteem.

A weak mind never thinks of stooping to learn, a weak mind never thinks of association, a weak mind never thinks of innovation, they only go as far as moving on established beaten tracks because of the fear of losing themselves, losing their so called identity. Such a fear of preventing association building, preventing synergy to form social capital, isolates the person intellectually, prevents the flow of fresh ideas, and makes it very inimical of any progressive farsighted growth. The person then withdraws into his/her own cocoon and sees everything threatening him, everything better than him/her everything with doubts....

Doubts can never be the basis of any relationship, can never be the basis of innovation, never be the basis of any progress. Doubt is a sign of weak mind, reflective of fearful thinking. True Purusharth is moving ahead, making mistakes, learning from mistakes, improving that mistake, and thus innovating, forging greater understanding and bonding.

China's soft power concept is very different.

Liu Xiaobo 

China's soft power concept is very different.

People like Chinese products in a more utilitarian manner, People also like Chinese efficiency, Chinese meticulous work execution and all of which makes for China's notion of soft power. Chinese portray themselves and love this identity of theirs.

Globally, Chinese are known for their work and their ability to get their work done in a roughed up manner. It’s in Chinese interest to portray themselves as brazen confrontationist and a hard task master.

They make the world fear; they make people maintain a distance from the very inflexible notion of Chinese nationalism. They want themselves to be seen as a no nonsense country, with a very high degree of nationalistic fervor.

The notion of goodwill is very different for Chinese.

They don’t want their work done through affection, rather they want it done in a brazen form through coercion, if anywhere it doesn’t suits their interest.

Elevating Liu Xiabo will be like accepting his philosophy, accepting his notions of goodwill, affection, love, peace and diplomacy. If Chinese follow it today...they wont be able to comply with its philosophy. Complying with it will harm the brand that is China.

Chinese soft power is more transactional, rather than diversely adaptable as is the case of India. Indian soft power is not truly in form of give and take. Chinese do want to take time, they want quick results. In case of long term interests, the Chinese whoever country they convert into soft power, almost take full control of it.

Chinese do not believe in the dictum that "If you want to get your work done, love is enough to get it done" Chinese seem to be more influenced by the fact that “You require power when you have to misuse it”-This statement epitomizes Chinese psyche and mentality.

From a psychological viewpoint, for Indians intelligence is wholesome solution, a means to understand and a means to provide lasting solution or never allow troubles to erupt. For Chinese intelligence is synonymous to being clever, being cunning.

No way will they follow Liu Xiabo.

*What is spiritual maturity?

SPIRITUAL MATURITY

1. Spiritual Maturity is *when we stop trying to change others,...instead focus on changing our self.*

2. Spiritual Maturity is when we *accept people as they are.*


3. Spiritual Maturity is when we *understand everyone is right in his/her own perspective.*

4. Spiritual Maturity is when we *learn to "let go".*

5. Spiritual Maturity is when we are able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*

6. Spiritual Maturity is when we *understand whatever we do, we do for our own peace.*

7. Spiritual Maturity is when we *stop proving to the world, how intelligent we are.*

8. Spiritual Maturity is when we *don't seek approval from others.*

9. Spiritual Maturity is when we *stop comparing with others.*

10. Spiritual Maturity is when we *are at peace with ourself.*

11. Spiritual Maturity is when we *are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of our wants.* *& last but most meaningful !*

12. WE gain Spiritual Maturity when we *stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*

ATTITUDE AND LIFE

ATTITUDE AND LIFE

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude… is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a country a company…or …a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past…we cannot change the inevitable. The only think we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10 per cent what happens to me and 90 per cent of how I react to it. And so it is with you.

प्रेरणाप्रद कहानी

प्रेरणाप्रद कहानी

एक 6 वर्ष का बालक अपनी 4 वर्ष की बहन के साथ एक बाजार से गुजर रहा था। अचानक बालक ने पाया कि उसकी बहन पीछे ठहर गई है।
बालक ठहरा और मुड़कर पीछे देखा। उसकी बहन खिलौने की एक दुकान के सामने खड़ी थी और बड़े ध्यान से कुछ देख रही थी।
बालक वापस लौटा और अपनी बहन से पूछा, ‘‘ क्या तुम कुछ चाहती हो?’’ बहन ने एक गुड़िया की ओर संकेत किया। बालक ने उसका हाथ पकड़ा और एक जिम्मेदार बड़े भाई की तरह गुड़िया उसे दे दी। बहन बहुत ज्यादा खुश हो गई।
दुकानदार यह सब देख रहा था और लड़के के परिपक्व व्यवहार के देखकर आनंदित हो रहा था...
अब लड़के ने काउंटर पर जाकर दुकानदार से पूछा, “ इस गुड़िया की कीमत क्या है, श्रीमान!”
दुकानदार एक धैर्यवान व्यक्ति था और जीवन की समस्याओं से परिचित था। इसलिए उसने बालक से बहुत प्यार और स्नेह से कहा, “ जो भी तुम दे सकते हो?”
लड़के ने अपनी जेब से वे सभी कौड़ियां बाहर निकालीं जो उसने सागर तट से एकत्र की थीं और उनको दुकानदार को दे दिया। दुकानदार ने कौड़ियों को लिया और ऐसे गिनना शुरू किया, जैसे पैसे गिन रहा हो। तब उसने बच्चे की ओर देखा। बच्चे ने चिंता से पूछा, “क्या यह कम है?”
दुकानदार ने कहा, “नहीं, नहीं..ये कीमत से अधिक हैं। इसलिए मैं बाकी वापस लौटाऊंगा।” ऐसा कहकर उसने केवल 4 कौड़ियां लीं और शेष वापस कर दी।
बालक ने बहुत खुशी से बाकी कौड़ियां अपनी जेब में रखीं और बहन के साथ चला गया।
उस दुकान में एक नौकर यह सब देखकर बहुत आश्चर्यचकित हुआ। उसने अपने मालिक से पूछा, “ श्रीमान! आपने वह महंगी गुड़िया केवल 4 कौड़ियों के बदले में दे दी।”
दुकानदार ने मुस्कुरा कर कहा, “ हमारे लिए ये केवल मामूली कौड़ियां हैं लेकिन उस बालक के लिए ये कौड़ियां बहुत मूल्यवान हैं। इस उम्र में वह नहीं समझता कि पैसा क्या होता है लेकिन जब वह बड़ा होगा तो वह निश्चित ही समझेगा। जब वह याद करेगा कि उसने एक गुड़िया को पैसों की बजाय कौड़ियों से खरीदा था तब वह मुझे याद करेगा और सोचेगा कि यह दुनिया अच्छे लोगों से भरी है।
यह उसे एक सकारात्मक मनोवृत्ति विकसित करने में मदद करेगा और वह भी इस तरह से अच्छा बनने के प्रेरित होगा। ”
कहानी का मूलमंत्र-
जो भी भावना आप दुनिया में डालते हो वह आगे फैलती है। यदि आप अच्छा करते हैं तो अच्छाई बढ़ेगी। यदि आप खराब करते हैं तो नकारात्मकता बढ़ेगी। इस बात को महसूस कीजिए कि आप ऊर्जा के एक बहुत शक्तिशाली स्रोत हैं।
आपकी अच्छाई या बुराई कई गुना बढ़कर आपके पास लौटती है। उस तरीके से नहीं जैसा कि आप चाहते हैं और न उन तरीकों से जिनकों आप समझ सकते हैं। लेकिन वह वापस लौटेगी।

YOU DO NOT KNOW WHETHER AN ACCIDENT HARMS YOU OR SAVES YOU.

YOU DO NOT KNOW WHETHER AN ACCIDENT HARMS YOU OR SAVES YOU.

A pilot had to had an emergency landing. He was flying over sea. He located a barren island and somehow landed the plane on the beach. The plane on crash landing broke various instruments as well as its body. It was thus unable to fly once again. The pilot had no hope to escape other than if someone sights him and evacuates him from the island.
In order to survive the pilot learnt how to make a shelter and a hut, how to start fire. His only priority was how to cook food out of whatever that was going to be found on the island.
Living everyday life was an ordeal for him. His entire day used to be spent on trying to cite a ship, a boat or a vessel that could take him away from the island. He used come out of his makeshift hut and wave clothes at distant ship hoping that somebody will notice it and then take him away from that island.
Time passed, it went on to be more than one year in one dress that was torn to shreds, and had a state of mind that was going to break any time.
One day he noticed a ship passing closed by while he was cooking food with makeshift fire in his hut. He rushed out immediately to wave a cloth to the passing ship. While he waved, the ship kept on passing to be away from his eyes.
As he returned he found the hut was burnt as in the rush to get out, the food that was being "cooked" fell. This set the entire hut made of straw on fire.
He was aghast. He felt that the survival would become even more difficult without a shelter, a shelter that took months to build. He was despondent as he watched smoke from his already burnt hut.
Soon afterwards, he saw a helicopter hovering over the island. He started waving frantically. As he waved now, he was promptly rescued.
He was surprised and asked as to how they came in helicopter and why did they came?
The answer of the rescuers was
"It was the smoke that gave us the indication that someone is in the island and they are sending smoke as a stress signal.
Just think, what was considered to be a catastrophe for the person now became the saviour.

HUMANS NEED TO TALK,,TALK...AND TALK

 HUMANS NEED TO TALK, TALK...AND TALK

People need people to talk to; they need people they can open their hearts to; people need people to hold hands and feel strong; they need people who can hold them and let them cry.

I am not talking about a romanticized partner or a bollywoodised friend. I am not even talking about families or counsellors. I am just talking about people. Just anyone.

We really do not realize how badly people need a release. I work with people and I work on myself. And i know how important conversations are.

We, as a society, really have no idea how suffocated people are in their emotions. Most people have nobody to express themselves entirely to. Everyone is holding back their vulnerabilities to maintain the social image of a confident and happy person.

Heart-to-heart conversations have become rare, artificial and shallow. And most hearts are filled with empty defences.

Most people can't even talk to their life-partners openly for the fear of being judged or rejected. Emotions await just a release. Social images make sure weakness is not glorified.

Children have bottled up stress. Young people suffer anxiety and depression.

It is just lack of social support. It is lack of non-judgmental friendships. It is result of fast and busy lives where nobody has time to just sit and watch someone cry. It is result of instant and impatient lifestyle practices, that emotions have started feeling like waste of time.

We have whatsapp and facetime and social media - and we have stress and anxiety and depression.

Our forefathers had neither. Because they talked to each other. Because talking helps. The face-to-face type talking, the just-listen-to-me type talking, the hold-my-hand-and-let-me-cry type talking, the sit-next-to-me-and-listen-to-my-silence type talking... the talking where the person can be themselves and say anything they feel without the fear of any judgement or loss or rejection.

Today we dont like that type of talking. Those conversations when someone begins to undress one's mind, feel awkward. We don't ever want them. In fact we avoid them. And so, mental illness is epidemic. Naturally.

There is not much we can do. But we can offer a listening. We can be the people someone can just come over and talk to. We can be the people someone can just cry in front of. We can help people free themselves from the prison of their own minds.

Let's be the go-to person for someone. Let's learn to be friends with the friendless. Let's let people talk without any fear. Let's create conversations.

SOMETHING TO BE HAPPY, NOT SUCCESSFUL

SOMETHING TO BE HAPPY, NOT SUCCESSFUL

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked:

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget:

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours if in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous:

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly:

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:

Do not waste time in protracted wondering ” Should I or shouldn't I?” Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over split milk?

EGO AND SELF ESTEEM

EGO AND SELF ESTEEM

Why is that Indians who are highly talented, lag behind- is it talent or attitude; why is that Indians are hobbesians, why is that most of the cities have a culture of snobbery, why is that we waste our time more on pulling down others, envying them, being jealous of them rather than focussing on ourself, improving on ourself; why is that we take most of our decisions on the basis of perception, rather than on reality, why is that we prefer to bribe our priests and our gods too, rather than dispensing the same amount to the poor.... The list of such questions may not be endless, but it does cast aspersions on our attitude, our thinking, our interpretation of events and processes.

'The biggest hurdle that one comes across in India is almost everyone happens to know what you will say, what you will think, and how is it that you are going to act. The toughest hurdle is if they say someone is already doing what you have thought of . There isn't much to do then for an innovator.
This happens because we nurse our ego more than our self esteem,

Now the issue is-What is the impact of ego on attitude, and how is it different from self esteem.
Ego blinkers your vision, constricts your thinking, it makes you narrow minded, stops your adaptability (Its not the best species that survive, but the most adaptable), prevents your observation-power, blurs your communication, stops your learning process, inhibits your innovative ability and empties your social capital. In ego, you always try to make the others feel down, you look them down, prevent them from rising, and developing, by obstructing them, and then in some extreme cases, you always try to degrade them

Self esteem is different from ego.

In self esteem you always improve upon yourself, always make yourself better, you only compete with yourself so that you are improved to an extent that you are head and shoulders above others. In self esteem, you improve yourself to your satisfaction, beyond anyone's reach without imitation. In ego you do not know yourself, in self esteem you have a higher degree of self understanding. Self esteem improves your ability to know yourself.

In ego you try to change others, obviously this is strength, in self esteem you control yourself, you overpower yourself and that is absolute power.

*HINDUISM SEEN FROM WESTERN PERSPECTIVE* - by Francois Gautier

HINDUISM SEEN FROM WESTERN PERSPECTIVE

1) Believe in God ! - Aastik - Accepted
2) Don't believe in God ! - You're accepted as Nastik
3) You want to worship idols - You are a murti pujak.
4) You dont want to worship idols - no problem. You can focus on Nirguna Brahman.
5) You want to criticise something in our religion. Come forward. We are logical. Nyaya, Tarka etc. are core Hindu schools.
6) You want to accept beliefs as it is. Most welcome. Please go ahead with it.
7) You want to start your journey by reading Bhagvad Gita - Sure !
8) You want to start your journey by reading Upanishads - Go ahead
9) You want to start your journey by reading Purana - Be my guest.
10) You just don't like reading Puranas or other books. No problem. Go with Bhakti tradition. (devotion)
11) You don't like idea of Bhakti ! No problem. Do your Karma. Be a karmayogi.
12) You want to enjoy life. Very good. No problem at all. This is Charvaka Philosophy.
13) You want to abstain from all the enjoyment of life & find God - jai ho ! Be a Sadhu, an ascetic !
14) You don't like the concept of God. You believe in Nature only - Welcome. (Trees are friends and Prakriti or nature is worthy of worship).
15) You believe in one God or Supreme Energy. Follow the Advaita philosophy.
16) You want a Guru. Go ahead. Do seva & Receive gyaan.
17) You don't want a Guru! Help yourself ! Meditate, Study !
18) You believe in Female energy ! Worship Shakti.
19) You believe that every human being is equal. Vasudhaiva kutumbakam" (the world is a family)
20) You don't have time to celebrate the festival! Don't worry. One more festival is coming! There are multiple festivals every single day of the year.
21) You are a working person. Don't have time for religion. Its okay. You will still be a Hindu.
22) You like to go to temples. Devotion is loved.
23) You don't like to go to temples - no problem. You are still a Hindu!
24) You know that Hinduism is a way of life, with considerable freedom.
25) You believe that everything has God in it. So you worship your mother, father, guru, tree, River, Prani-matra, Earth, Universe!
26) And If you don't believe that everything has GOD in it - No problems. Hinduism Respect your viewpoint.
27) "Sarve jana sukhino bhavantu " (May you all live happily) You represent this! You're free to choose, my dear Hindu!
This is exactly the essence of Hinduism, all inclusive. That is why it has withstood the test of time inspite of repeated onslaught both from within and outside, and assimilated every good aspects from everything. That is why it is eternal !!!
There is a saying in Rigveda, the first book ever known to mankind which depicts the Hinduism philosophy in a Nutshell -" Ano bhadrah Kratavo Yantu Vishwatah"- Let the knowledge come to us from every direction"

Dr Arnold Toynbee, British Historian wrote

"It is already becoming clear that a chapter which had a Western beginning will have to have an Indian ending if it is not to end in the self-destruction of the human race. At this supremely dangerous moment in history, the only way of salvation for mankind is the Indian way."

INDIANS DO NOT REALISE THAT, IT TAKES A WESTERNER TO MAKE THEM REALISE IT SO, AND WE THINK INDIA CAN BE A SUPER POWER........

क्रोध

 क्रोध

बुद्ध ने कहा है कि जब मैंने जाना तो मैंने पाया है कि अदभुत हैं वे लोग, जो दूसरों की भूल पर क्रोध करते हैं! क्यों? तो बुद्ध ने कहा कि अदभुत इसलिए कि भूल दूसरा करता है, दंड वह अपने को देता है। गाली मैं आपको दूं और क्रोधित आप होंगे। दंड कौन भोग रहा है? दंड आप भोग रहे हैं, गाली मैंने दी! क्रोध में जलते हम हैं, राख हम होते हैं, लेकिन ध्यान वहां नहीं होता! इसलिए धीरे-धीरे पूरी जिंदगी राख हो जाती है। और हमको भ्रम यह होता है कि हम जान गये हैं! हम जानते नहीं-- क्रोध की सिर्फ स्मृति है और क्रोध के संबंध में शास्त्रों में पढ़े हुए वचन हैं और हमारा कोई अनुभव नहीं। जब क्रोध आ जाये तो उस आदमी को धन्यवाद दें, जिसने क्रोध पैदा करवा दिया, क्योंकि उसकी कृपा, उसने आत्म-निरीक्षण का एक मौका दिया; भीतर आपको जानने का एक अवसर दिया। उसको फौरन धन्यवाद दें कि मित्र धन्यवाद, और अब मैं जाता हूं, थोड़ा इस पर ध्यान करके वापस आकर बात करूंगा। द्वार बंद कर लें और देखें कि भीतर क्रोध उठ गया है। हाथ-पैर कसते हों, कसने दें; क्योंकि हाथ-पैर कसेंगे। हो सकता है कि क्रोध में, अंधेरे में, हवा में, घूंसे चलें; चलने दें। द्वार बंद कर दें और देखें कि क्या-क्या होता है। अपनी पूरी पागल स्थिति को जानें और पागलपन को पूरा प्रकट हो जाने दें अपने सामने। तब आप पहली बार अनुभव करेंगे कि क्या है यह क्रोध। जब आप इस पागलपन की स्थिति को अनुभव करेंगे तो कांप जायेंगे भीतर से, कि यह है क्रोध। यह मैंने कई बार किया था, दूसरे लोगों ने क्या सोचा होगा! मनोवैज्ञानिक कहते हैं, क्रोध संक्षिप्त रूप में आया हुआ पागलपन है, थोड़ी देर के लिए आया हुआ पागलपन है, क्षणिक पागलपन है। क्षण भर में आदमी उसी हालत में हो गया, जिस हालत में कुछ लोग सदा के लिए हो जाते हैं। क्रोध में जलते हुए आदमी में और पागल आदमी में मौलिक अंतर नहीं है। अंतर सिर्फ लंबाई का है। पागल आदमी स्थायी पागल है, क्रोधी आदमी अस्थायी पागल है। दूसरे ने आपको क्रोध में देखा होगा, इसलिए दूसरे कहते है कि यह बेचारा कितना पागल हो गया है, यह क्या करता है? आपने कभी देखा है अपने को? अतः द्वार बंद कर लें। और अपनी पूरी हालत को देखें कि यह क्या हो रहा है। और रोकें मत, प्रकट होने दें, जो हो रहा है। और उसका पूरा निरीक्षण करें, तब आप पहली दफा परिचित होंगे, यह है क्रोध।

नेति-नेति प्रवचन 16

दबाव रहित पछतावा रहित जीवन: भगवन कृष्णा और भगवन बुद्ध से जवाब

दबाव रहित पछतावा रहित जीवन

अगर आज के समय में हम में से किसी को भी भगवन कृष्णा और भगवन बुद्ध से आज के सन्दर्भ में प्रश्न पूछा जाये तो उसका क्या जवाब मिलेगा

​१. आप - मुझे खाली समय ​और सुकून नहीं मिल पा रहा। जीवन बेहद ​जटिल हो गया है।

कृष्ण- गतिविधियां और एक ही ढर्रें पर किए जा रहे काम आप को व्यस्त रखते हैं लेकिन
​ जैसे ही ​ उत्पादकता ​बढाती है या आप सृजन कर कोई नया कदम उठाते हैं ​​तो आपको खाली समय का अभ्यास भी हो जाता है और जीवन बोझिल भी नहीं लगता। सृजन से नयी ऊर्जा मिलती है

2. आप- आजकल के समय में जीवन इतना जटिल क्यों हो गया है।

कृष्ण- जीवन का आंकलन करने से जीवन जटिल और भारी हो जाता है। हमें जीवन को सिर्फ जीना चाहिए।

3. आप- हम लगातार नाखुश क्यों रहते हैं?

कृष्ण- चिंता करना तुम्हारा स्वभाव हो चुका है, और यही कारण है की तुम हमेशा दुखी रहते हो।

4 आप- अच्छे और भले लोग ही हमेशा पीड़ित क्यों होते हैं?

कृष्ण- जिस तरह किसी भी हीरे को बिना रगड़े तराशा नहीं जा सकता। सोना भी आग में तपकर ही खरा सोना कहलाता है, उसी तरह भले लोगों को भी कई परीक्षणों से गुज़रना पड़ता है, वे पीड़ित नहीं होते हैं। इन अनुभवों से उनका जीवन कटु नहीं होता ब्लकि और बेहतर होता है।

5. आप- आपके कहने का अर्थ है की इस तरह के अनुभव उपयोगी होते हैं।

कृष्ण- हां, हर प्रकार
​का अनुभव एक​ ​कड़वा शिक्षक है। ​ज़िन्दगी पहले परीक्षा ​लेती ​ है और बाद में पाठ ​पढ़ाती ​ है।

6. आप- जीवन में इतनी सारी परेशानियों के कारण हमें पता ही नहीं चलता है की हम किस दिशा में जा रहे हैं....

कृष्ण- अगर तुम सिर्फ सतही तौर पर चीज़ों को देखोगे तो तुम्हें कभी भी दिशा नहीं समझ आएगी। अपने अंदर देखो। आंखों की मदद से हम सिर्फ देख सकते हैं लेकिन अपने अंदर हृदय में झांकने से हमें रास्ता मिलता है, अपने आत्मा निरक्षण के कारन हमे ​रास्तों को चुनने में मदद मिलती है

7. आप- अधिक चोट क्या सही दिशा में जाने से ​लगाती है या ​असफलता ​मिलाने से लगती है?

कृष्ण- सफलता वो पैमाना है जो दूसरों द्वारा निर्धारित किया जाता है वहीं संतुष्टी का पैमाना आप खुद तय करते हैं।

8. आप- कठिन समय में आप खुद को प्रेरित कैसे रख सकते हैं?

कृष्ण- हमेशा यह देखों की तुम कितनी दूर तक आ चुके हो, इसकी अपेक्षा अगर तुम देखोगे की कितनी दूर और जाना है तो तुम चिंतित होगे। हमेशा अपनी सफलताओं को गिनों, असफलताओं को गिनने से निराशा मिलेगी।​ सफलताएं आपकी क्षमता और आपके मनोनुकूल होने की अवस्था को बताती हैं ​

9. आप- लोगों के बारे में क्या चीजें हमें आश्चर्य में डालती हैं?

कृष्ण- जब वे कष्ट में होते हैं तो वे पूछते हैं की “,मैं ही क्यों "? जब वे उन्नति करते हैं तब वे यह कभी नहीं पूछते की “,मैं ही क्यों" ?

10. आप- मैं अपने जीवन से सर्वश्रेष्ठ कैसे प्राप्त कर सकता हूं?

कृष्ण- अपने भूतकाल का सामना बिना किसी पछतावे के करों। अपने वर्तमान का सामना पूरे आत्मविश्वास के साथ करो। अपने भविष्य की तैयारी निडर होकर करो।

11. आप- एक अंतिम प्रश्न। कभी कभी मुझे लगता है की मेरी प्रार्थनाओं का कोई जवाब नहीं मिलता है।

कृष्ण- कोई भी प्रार्थना अनुत्तरित नहीं होती है। अपने डर को भगाकर आस्था को बनाए रखों। जीवन एक रहस्य है जिसे हमें हल करना है, जीवन कोई समस्या नहीं
​जिसका हमे समाधान खोजना है। रहस्य के कारन ही जीवन हमेशा परिवर्तनशील रहता है, अनुत्तरित रहता है , सुन्दर और अनिश्चित भी रहता है अन्यथा यह एक ढर्रे पर चलता।

अगर कोई एक चीज़ जीवन में स्थिर है तो वह है परिवर्तन और यह परिवर्तन क्या होगा यह किसी को भी नहीं मालूम। जिस दिन हमें अपने जीवन के रहस्य मालूम हो जाएंगे उस दिन जीवन का सौंदर्य समाप्त हो जाएगा.

Everyone's Time Will Come ! सभी का एक दिन समय आएगा, सभी का समय आता है...

Everyone's Time Will Come ! 

सभी का एक दिन समय आएगा, सभी का समय आता है...

New York is 3 hrs ahead of California but it does not mean that California is slow, or that New York is fast. Both are working based on their own "Time Zone."

Some one is still single. Someone got married and 'waited' 10 yrs before having a child, there is another who had a baby within a year of marriage.

Someone graduated at the age of 22, yet waited 5 years before securing a good job; and there is another who graduated at 27 and secured employment immediately !

Someone became CEO at 25 and died at 50 while another became a CEO at 50 and lived to 90 years.

Someone became IAS at the age of 21, and just progressed ahead in the form of hierarchy, someone became IRTS at the age of 30 and went on to change the entire complexion of Indian Railway.

Someone tried six attempts to become IAS, never went on to become successful but what they are now as the founder of world renowned E Commerce company having a net worth of 6000 crores is more than being successful.

Someone studied hard, they never had a good English and Maths, but their Hindi was terrific and preparation equally good, they never qualified for UPSC, but are editors of newspapers which can shake the foundation of governments.

Everyone works based on their 'Time Zone',

People can have things worked out only according to their pace.

Work in your “time zone”.

Your Colleagues, friends, younger ones might "seem" to go ahead of you.

May be some might "seem" behind you.

Don't envy them or mock them, it's their 'Time Zone.'

You are in yours!

Hold on, be strong, and stay true to yourself.

All things shall work together for your good.

You’re not late … You are not early ... you’re very much On time!

The most successful people are the not the ones who qualify CIVIL SERVICES, not all those who qualify for Civil Services become successful. One may not qualify Civil Services, but may become a Member of Parliament at as early as 30 years of age, one may have quit Civil Services, but may earn 1000 crores in 4 years, one may think that they have wasted their time in appearing for Civil Services, but the experience of preparation can make them a world class academician, one may think that that they were unlucky not to have qualified for Civil Services, but then today they grill very known personalities on Live TV debates.

IF YOU QUALIFY FOR CIVIL SERVICES, ITS GOOD, IF YOU DONT, ITS EVEN BETTER.

YOUR TIME WILL COME.

Stay blessed.

You Are In Your Time Zone

रावण बनना भी कहां आसान...

रावण बनना भी कहां आसान.

रावण बनना भी कहां आसान.

रावण में ज्ञान और विद्वता का अम्बार था लेकिन उसका दुरुपयोग करने का संस्कार नहीं था
रावण में अहंकार था, तो पश्चाताप भी था
रावण में ज्ञान और विद्वता का शक्ति थी तो एक मनुष्य जैसे बच्चे के सामान ज़िद भी थी
रावण की सोच अगर सामान्य होती तो वह एक व्यक्ति होता वह देवतुल्य था क्योंकि वह दस अलग दिमाग से, (दशानन) दस अलग अलग परिप्रेक्ष्य से सोच सकता पर इस सोच को सच्चाई से बताने का सहस भी था
रावण में अपने को श्रेष्ठ कहने की क्षमता थी तो अपने नश्वर होने का एहसास भी था
रावण शक्ति का प्रतीक था उसका प्रतिबिम्ब था पर उसे अपने लोगों से कमज़ोर भी था
रावण में सोने की नगरी बनाने का सृजन था वैभव को प्रतिलक्षित करने का मन था तो तपस्या करने की और वैभव से अलग रहने की दृढ़ता भी थी
रावण में वासना थी, तो संयम भी था
रावण में सीता के अपहरण की ताकत थी, तो बिना सहमति पराए स्त्री को स्पर्श न करने का संकल्प भी था
सीता जीवित मिली ये राम की ताकत थी, पर पवित्र मिली ये रावण की मर्यादा थी
राम,
तुम्हारे युग का रावण अच्छा था..
दस के दस चेहरे, सब "बाहर" रखता था..
महसूस किया है कभी उस जलते हुए रावण का दुःख
जो सामने खड़ी भीड़ से बार बार पूछ रहा था.....
"तुम में से कोई राम है क्या?"

ITS NEVER TOO LATE

At age 5 his Father died.
At age 16 he quit school.
At age 17 he had already lost four jobs.
At age 18 he got married.
Between ages 18 and 22, he was a railroad conductor and failed.
He joined the army and washed out there.
He applied for law school he was rejected.
He became an insurance sales man and failed again.
At age 19 he became a father.
At age 20 his wife left him and took their baby daughter.
He became a cook and dishwasher in a small cafe.
He failed in an attempt to kidnap his own daughter, and eventually he convinced his wife to return home. At age 65 he retired.
On the 1st day of retirement he received a cheque from the Government for $105.
He felt that the Government was saying that he couldn’t provide for himself.
He decided to commit suicide, it wasn’t worth living anymore; he had failed so much.
He sat under a tree writing his will, but instead, he wrote what he would have accomplished with his life. He realised there was much more that he hadn’t done. There was one thing he could do better than anyone he knew. And that was how to cook.
So he borrowed $87 against his cheque and bought and fried up some chicken using his recipe, and went door to door to sell them to his neighbours in Kentucky.
Remember at age 65 he was ready to commit suicide.
But at age 88 Colonel Sanders, founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC) Empire was a billionaire.
Moral of the story: Attitude. It's never too late to start all over.
*MOST IMPORTANLY, IT'S ALL ABOUT YOUR ATTITUDE. NEVER GIVE UP NO MATTER HOW HARD IT GETS.*

पुनर्योवन : नवजीवन

 पुनर्योवन :  नवजीवन

"बाज लगभग 70 वर्ष जीता है .... परन्तु अपने जीवन के 40वें वर्ष में आते-आते उसे एक महत्वपूर्ण निर्णय लेना पड़ता है ।
उस अवस्था में उसके शरीर के3 प्रमुख अंग निष्प्रभावी होने लगते हैं ..... पंजे लम्बे और लचीले हो जाते है, तथा शिकार पर पकड़ बनाने में अक्षम होने लगते हैं ।
चोंच आगे की ओर मुड़ जाती है,
और भोजन में व्यवधान उत्पन्न करने लगती है ।
पंख भारी हो जाते हैं, और सीने से चिपकने के कारण पूर्णरूप से खुल नहीं पाते हैं, उड़ान को सीमित कर देते हैं।
भोजन ढूँढ़ना, भोजन पकड़ना, और भोजन खाना .. तीनों प्रक्रियायें अपनी धार खोने लगती हैं ।
उसके पास तीन ही विकल्प बचते हैं....
1. देह त्याग दे,
2. अपनी प्रवृत्ति छोड़ गिद्ध की तरह त्यक्त भोजन पर निर्वाह करे !!
3. या फिर "स्वयं को पुनर्स्थापित करे" !!
आकाश के निर्द्वन्द एकाधिपति के रूप में.
जहाँ पहले दो विकल्प सरल और त्वरित हैं,
अंत में बचता है तीसरा लम्बा और अत्यन्त पीड़ादायी रास्ता ।
बाज चुनता है तीसरा रास्ता ..
और स्वयं को पुनर्स्थापित करता है ।
वह किसी ऊँचे पहाड़ पर जाता है, एकान्त में अपना घोंसला बनाता है ..
और तब स्वयं को पुनर्स्थापित करने की प्रक्रिया प्रारम्भ करता है !!
सबसे पहले वह अपनी चोंच चट्टान पर मार मार कर तोड़ देता है,
चोंच तोड़ने से अधिक पीड़ादायक कुछ भी नहीं है पक्षीराज के लिये !
और वह प्रतीक्षा करता है चोंच के पुनः उग आने का ।
उसके बाद वह अपने पंजे भी उसी प्रकार तोड़ देता है, और प्रतीक्षा करता है .. पंजों के पुनः उग आने का ।
नयी चोंच और पंजे आने के बाद वह अपने भारी पंखों को एक-एक कर नोंच कर निकालता है !
और प्रतीक्षा करता है ..
पंखों के पुनः उग आने का ।
150 दिन की पीड़ा और प्रतीक्षा के बाद ...
मिलती है वही भव्य और ऊँची उड़ान पहले जैसी....
इस पुनर्स्थापना के बाद
वह 30 साल और जीता है ....
ऊर्जा, सम्मान और गरिमा के साथ ।
इसी प्रकार इच्छा, सक्रियता और कल्पना, तीनों निर्बल पड़ने लगते हैं हम इंसानों में भी !
हमें भी भूतकाल में जकड़े
अस्तित्व के भारीपन को त्याग कर कल्पना की उन्मुक्त उड़ाने भरनी होंगी
150 दिन न सही.....
60 दिन ही बिताया जाये
स्वयं को पुनर्स्थापित करने में !
जो शरीर और मन से चिपका हुआ है, उसे तोड़ने और
नोंचने में पीड़ा तो होगी ही !!
और फिर जब बाज की तरह उड़ानें भरने को तैयार होंगे ..
इस बार उड़ानें और ऊँची होंगी,
अनुभवी होंगी, अनन्तगामी होंगी ।

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